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If it were that simple…

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Since Cordelia left, Simeon’s been having great days. Such great days.

We’ve played games and eaten lunches together. We’ve been quiet. Very quiet.

Yes, he’s had rages. But no more than usual. In fact, I’d say less.

He’s been sad missing Cordelia. We all have.

But, we talk about it. Every day. And he’s doing better. So are we.

I’m sure some of his big feelings come from having to say goodbye again. It would be crazy to ignore that.

But, it’s not so simple as just that. There’s more. There’s deeper pain. There are bigger fears.

That’s evident in the day to day.

So, we’re getting help. And we’re working hard. And we’re taking it one day at a time. And for now we’re enjoying just us.

But we’re open to change. Or not. And I guess, it is as simple as that.


About Monica

Christ following, husband loving, children hugging foster and adoptive mama.

4 responses »

  1. Simple when you write it down, but not quite so when you are in it. One day at a time, indeed…what other choice is there? ((hug))

  2. I hope you didn’t think my comment in your last post implied that you weren’t talking to him about Cordelia leaving. I meant that sometimes even when we talk about it the understanding and comprehension takes time. That’s why your plan for Valentines celebrations is so great. It will reinforce all the love you talk about.

    You’re doing a wonderful job, just keep swimming!

    • This wasn’t directed at anyone in particular. Or rather, a surprisingly large group of people. We’ve gotten more questions and comments than we can count about Cordelia’s leaving and it’s affect on Simeon. Most of them unwelcome. More than that we’ve received many suggestions to stop fostering. While I’m sure it’s meant to be supportive, it hurts. It feels like people are implying that we’re not thinking about Simeon, or the other children, or that we don’t know what’s best for our family, or they do not recognize God’s call for our family.

      I guess this was my response to the flippancy with which it feels many people in our lives are treating this most recent change.

      Thanks for the encouragement. It’s good to know there are other mama’s out there who “get it.”


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