Simeon is now at the age where he is qualified to receive a psychological evaluation. As Leo and I look forward to making Simeon a legal member of our family, we’re thinking about the kind of parents we’ll need to be as he grows.
The last few weeks have left us off our feet and wondering “what do we do now?”
Simeon is a wonderful treasure of a boy. He’s curious and witty. He can be charming and engaging. He can and will show affection and we are blessed beyond measure to be chosen to love him.
In the privacy of our home, he can amazingly manipulative and conniving. When I say manipulative, I mean a behavior will continue or build for several days before Leo and I realize it’s an act and Simeon is controlling us. The first time we realized what was happening, I was shocked. He’s four. I’m an adult. How is it possible for him to even think that way? He self-sabotages and destroys property violently. He can shut down, build an emotional barricade we cannot break. He lies bizarre lies. There are a myriad of other concerning behaviors we’ve been cataloguing the past year and now that we’re preparing to meet a psychologist, I’m wondering what the outcome will be.
His speech therapist seems to think there are some deeper issues influencing behavior and she’s probably the only other person who sees even a glimpse of the child he is in our home.
So… we’re waiting to get a psychological and we’re looking into attending a conference by renowned attachment therapist, Nancy Thomas. But mostly, we’re praying. We’re praying for wisdom. I’m praying for grace. We’re praying for his heart and we’re praying for peace.
My other foster mamas out there, how young can RAD be diagnosed? Does this sound right? Am I just ill-equipped to handle this litle boy? Am I making too much out of these behaviors? Am I alone?
Oh, and we have a pre-trial for termination scheduled. This is getting real, y’all. This thing is getting real!