Simeon is smart.
Simeon is smart and sneaky and deceitful.
Oh, sure, he’s cute. He can be kind and generous. He has a winning smile and a tender empathy that I think may be advanced for someone so young, but he can be a real pain in the… in the… in the foot sometimes.
I’m finding myself more and more frustrated with our discipline limitations. Specifically the ones regarding spankings and not being able to lock kids in their rooms. No, I’m not kidding.
Every morning this week, Simeon has gotten up at some hour before the sun, and quietly snuck into the kitchen to make a mess. The first morning started simply, I noticed something was out of place. This morning ended with sugar in the coffee filter, lemon juice in the pot and a battle of wills, which I technically won and technically lost at once.
I. Don’t. Know. What. To. Do!
He is now playing quietly in his room. Where he’s been for the past hour and a half. Where he’ll stay for the next four if he can hold his bladder that long.
So, while I’ve got some relative quite, I’m beseeching the faceless internet for help. Will anyone out there help me out of this box?!
Leo and I were both spanked. We grew up in loving, secure homes where we never felt abused or mis-treated. Both of us agree that the disciplines we faced were usually just and swift. And that’s our problem. We don’t know what to do since we can’t spank our kids. We realize it’s not the perfect solution, but we can’t seem to see past that one freeing swat we long to deliver.
We’ve talked with other foster parents who spank regardless of the rules. The great irony here is that Leo and I are strict rule followers, probably because we were spanked as children. For us, there’s not a lot of gray when it comes to rules on paper. So we’re in a quandary.
What can we do? You, you out there who has never raised a hand to your child. Or perhaps you, you who feels spanking is abuse regardless of how it’s done. Or maybe even you, who would love to spank your child, but finds it does no good… what can we do? What do you do? Any ideas?
We use timeout. I yell. A lot. That’s it. His days aren’t structured enough and he doesn’t have enough privileges to take much away that he’d miss. So what else is there for a three year old who needs discipline? Shout it out, I’m listening.